- We tend to focus on and worry about the things we have little to no control or influence over.
- There are things we cannot control and need to accept for our well-being and inner peace.
- Tightening our grip on the things that we cannot control just fuels feelings of helplessness and despair.
What do you spend most of your time worrying about or fixated on? My guess is that you worry about the future and uncertainty that life brings—the things that we have little to no control over. For me, I used to be consumed with worries about life milestones and other people’s perceptions of me. I would obsess and spiral in my thoughts, thinking about all the “what-ifs” and worst-case scenarios that I could maybe avoid or somehow change and manipulate. Of course, this approach was not very helpful because the things I would worry about were either (a) almost always impossible to predict or plan or (b) things I could not directly influence—or both.
In our fear-based society, we try to do everything in our power to take control. We like to be “on it” and one step ahead, trying to troubleshoot everything. We don’t like to feel unprepared or vulnerable and will go to great lengths to avoid stress and things that are hard and uncomfortable. However, we are fighting a losing battle. Tightening our grip and expelling energy on the things that we cannot control just fuels feelings of helplessness and despair.
So, let’s make a shift and let go of the need to control the things that are outside of our control. Here are four things that we do not have control over: >>> Continue
